Questions answered in this episode:
@stellalunaevents "What was the biggest challenge you had to face to live out your true purpose?"
@Mistyyynnhaar "How do you confidently juggle work and personal life?"
@julie_ann_davey "What's the most pivotal decision you've made in your life that changed everything?"
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Oh my goodness, I am geeking-out excited to share my conversation with today’s guest, Rachel Hollis. Author, CCO of The Hollis Company, motivational speaker, podcast host and let’s not forget, a mother of FOUR, she is so incredibly amazing and authentic to her core. And if you don’t already know and love her, you will after our conversation.
After watching Rachel speak at events and reading her most recent book, Girl, Wash Your Face, I knew this interview was going to be off the charts. She is just so authentically real and I love that she remains the same no matter where she shows up. Rachel just wants to give and has share her servant heart with as many people as possible.
We talk all about what’s going on for her in terms of her book’s unexpected success and also the occasional feelings of overwhelm creep in and how it relates to every woman out there and the stories and lies that we tell ourselves day in and day out. But let me assure you, no matter what lie you’re telling yourself, Rachel shares the tools that can help us all rethink and change them.
I cannot wait for you to join us in our conversation because yes, this one will really make you feel like you’re sitting in a room with both us. Enjoy!
Question Highlights:
Quotes
"The only way to get past suffering is to confront it.”
“In order to teach people, you have to interact with people.”
“I would rather try to live life as myself than live a life to please someone else and drown myself in anxiety.”
“Live life for yourself. Don’t let other peoples’ opinions dictate who you’ll become.”
“The closer you get to who you are in your heart is the closer you get to happiness.”
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Rachel Hollis is a #1 New York Times best-selling author of Girl, Wash Your Face, a TV personality, top motivational speaker, top podcast host, CCO of The Hollis Company and mother of four. Rachel was named by Inc. Magazine as one of the “Top 30 Entrepreneurs under 30” and she is deeply passionate about empowering women in business.
Known as "the Tony Robbins for women" because of her motivational, high-energy style, Rachel has a unique ability to empower and embolden a female audience. Motivational, inspirational, and always approachable, Rachel’s tell-it-like-it-is attitude is a refreshing approach that allows her to authentically connect with audiences everywhere.
Her company, The Hollis Company exists to arm people with the tools to make positive and lasting change. They do this by creating media, products, inspiration and community that challenges their audience to reach for a better version of themselves every day. They believe that everyone can benefit from a personal growth mindset-- most especially people who’ve never encountered it before.
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I have been on a major rollercoaster this year (an awesome, but scary one), and I think it is so vital that I share with all of you why stepping into and becoming the your highest self is the hardest thing you’ll ever do.
I’ve been tackling some really big things lately – lots of speaking gigs, book tour events etc., and not gonna lie, they’re all freaking me out. But here’s my trick to getting through them all – I’m letting go of any expectations I have around the outcomes.
“In order for me to work through fear, I have to fully accept anything and everything can happen.”
There is no ONE thing that is going to make or break my life. And as I navigate each any every new thing, I gain more and more clarity around being truly me. Full honesty, I feel the most alive and “myself” that I’ve ever felt. You see, there is zero room for being something that you’re not, because eventually you’re going to get caught being yourself. For me, that’s showing the side of me that loves to perform spoken word, sing (future podcast performance?), and swear. Parents, this may mean putting “earmuffs” on the kiddos now and again. Keep in mind, I’m not trying to purposely offend anyone – it’s just how I express myself on occasion.
For example, in this episode I’m sharing a 30-second excerpt of a new spoken word piece I’m working on…I drop the F-bomb once, but it’s because that was the word that moved me in the moment. It’s about being yourself with a bit of discernment for your audience, right?
So here’s to stepping into a new version of yourself! Who’s with me and how soon do you want to do it? Whenever that moment takes place, please let me know so I can cheer you on!
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Questions answered in this episode:
@sarahitfit "If you only had 4 months to live, would you continue on your journey or stop?"
@chefdarkcocoa "When walking away from situations that no longer serve you, why does it feel so effinecrappy?"
@llindseyschwartz "What has been the most influential thing you've done to elevate your financial mindset"
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I’m so excited for you all to hear my conversation with the magical trifecta that is Betches Media – Samantha Fishbein, Jordana Abraham and Aleen Kuperman. With a following of more than 6 million followers on Instagram, their presence has taken social media by storm with their funny and light-hearted approach to wellness, dating, careers, pop culture, politics and more. If you haven’t heard of them, I highly recommend traveling down their entertaining Instagram rabbit hole (I did and it was incredible).
In an effort to offer the missing female counterpart to the “bro” culture, these three college friends decided to share their voice and opinions with the masses. With an obvious need fulfilled, their website at the time took off and has since morphed into podcasts, an eCommerce store, books and so much more.
With two books already under their belts, a third book, “When’s Happy Hour,” which focuses on careers is set to release Oct. 23. Whether you’re in college, unfulfilled by your job or fulfilled but driven for more, this book will teach you how to succeed in a career and make yourself better – with lots of laughs along the way.
These women are redefining what it means to love what you do, and I’m so happy they’re taking us all along for the ride.
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"It’s better that people are saying something, even if it’s not good, than not saying anything at all. At least criticism shows that people care.”
“Even the most amazing job that allows you to follow your passion is work.”
“Follow what makes you happy, what you’re good and what moves you, and live in a way that aligns with that.”
Betches is a multi-platform media company for millennial women to experience comedy and empowerment in an honest environment. Founded in 2011 by Cornell University alumni Aleen Kuperman, Samantha Fishbein, and Jordana Abraham, the company was launched as a blog with the core column “Betches Love This.” Betches has since expanded to become a robust, digital destination that boasts a strong social media presence through their cult Instagram with more than 6.2 million followers, @Betches, two New York Times bestselling books, I Had a Nice Time And Other Lies… and Nice Is Just a Place in France, e-commerce platform, Shop Betches, and vast editorial content including multiple pop-culture, political, and new-centric podcasts and video. Visit www.betches.com to learn more.
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This past weekend I was invited to write and share a new spoken word poem at my soul sister, Danette May’s event. To say I was terrified is putting it mildly, but I did it! And while I’m still processing my the journey and the emotions around it, one thing I know for certain is that my fear is always the X that marks the spot when it comes to what fulfills me and makes me feel like I’m living in my highest potential.
I shared a couple clips of the poem on social media, but have gotten several requests to hear the poem in its entirety. Always one to feel the fear again (why?!), I’ve recorded it on this episode and have provided the words below. If my words pull at your soul and you know someone else who would benefit, please share. Thanks so much for all of your support!
Here we go…
I got up today only to find that I’m still not yet where I want to be
A little less “I woke up like this”
A little more - “existential crisis” – feeling stuck in my reality.
When I think about who I am now, compared to who I think I’m supposed to be
I wake up every morning, AND INSTEAD of doing things that set me free
I put on a straight-jacket and wear someone else’s identity.
Not even accepting myself on my own ID
Height one inch taller
Weight 10 pounds smaller
Anyone else fear a lie detector test at the DMV – or is it just me?
Just the thought of trying to change my life makes me feel defeated
Like I got the short end of the stick
Or like this bitch over here got all the talent
And I got cheated.
When I close my eyes, I can see my life’s vision
But when I open them, I can’t see past my email, my thighs, my to-do list and dirty kitchen
I mean what’s it gonna take to reach my dream, be seen, and get attention?
Instead of growing my mind
I put all my energy towards beauty, titles and Instagram mentions.
When will I be enough?
Thanks to Fairytales and Ariel, I’ve spent my whole life chasing people and stuff
“Look at this stuff isn’t it neat? Wouldn’t you think my collection’s complete?”
Still waiting for my Prince Charming, castle and Fairy Godmother
Jerry Maguire said, “You complete me”
So feeling enough must ONLY come from a love.r
So many mixed messages, it’s no wonder we’re confused
The world tries keeping us busy stressing over low carbs, waist trainers and red-bottom shoes
They sidetrack us from our purpose with diets and promises of youth
But it’s a choice to decide to be committed to finding and living your truth.
The other day I was walking past a man in conversation with his mate
He said, and I quote, “You deserve the life you tolerate”
I just about choked
Cause at that point in my day I was feeling upset
Sorry for myself because there are unlived dreams I haven’t met yet
If what I tolerate is the life that I’m living
then you’re telling me it’s been my choice to not use these gifts I’ve been given?
They say through ownership I can get my power back
I gotta be honest – easier said than done
I was really hoping this whole personal development thing would be a little more fun…
True story – I was recently at an event like this
Sitting in the audience
And from the stage I felt the speakers words hit me in the soul much like a deliverance:
I am not what you think I am; I am not what I think I am; I am what I think you think I am.”
Let me repeat that….
I am not what you think I am; I am not what I think I am; I am what I think you think I am”
Moral of the story is the only thing that’s stopping us, is what other people think
Get your mind off other people’s shit
And put your soul back in the driver’s seat!
The only thing wrong with you is that you think something is wrong with you.
Everything is right with you
In spite of you
Ignoring the higher you
The answers are all inside of you
So why are you
Gripping onto others view
When what they think of you is…
NOTHING. Because they’re only thinkin’ about themselves.
The truth will set you free,
But first it will piss you off
And the truth is:
If you keep fighting for your limitations, you get to keep them
It’s time to stop choosing suffering
and choose to fight for your queendom.
I know the life I’m born for and the woman I’m supposed to be
I’m embarrassed to tell you my soul is an undercover celebrity
So where do I go if I believe the life I have now must be disputed
It’s like I can see I’m on screen
But my voice has been muted
It’s been so long since I’ve used it, or maybe I never learned how
But lately something’s stirring, rising up telling me my time is now.
What stops us are the lies we choose to believe
It’s an imagined future of pain that we think we perceive
It’s when I’m alone that my fears go viral
Next is panic, then my anxiety starts to spiral.
I’m picturing judgment, comparison, an imagined future that’s not even real
It’s our past informing our future telling us how to feel!
I believe the reason we feel pain is because we need to bridge the gap,
Between our fear and our faith in our source and its unlimited tap.
In order to become the woman I’m chasing
I have to let go of the woman I’m facing
The mirror is the place where you have to fall in love
With all the scars from our past
Reconfigure them from curses, into gifts from above
Trusting that what you have now is what you need to begin
And who’ll you’ll become will transform as you start to step in.
If I don’t start to take action now, it will be consequential
Because my biggest fear is dying, without reaching my highest potential
‘Cuz it just takes one to change your family tree
and your bravery and courage is bringing your ancestors to their knees
They may not have been able to use their voice or have what you do
That’s why you must take action,
They have blazed this trail for you.
But we have to wake up from the lie, and emerge from our comas
To stop sleepwalking through life requires more than a kiss from a prince or diploma.
See, the magic of life is that it gives you clues
And if you’re open and seeking you get glimpses of truth
And in case it’s still in question, YES you’ve been chosen, you’re forgiven it’s written
But you gotta SHOW UP - STAND UP - RISE UP - stop sittin’.
The map to your bliss is to follow it, and keep showing up
It’s going to be messy, your hands will shake, you’ll get criticized and you’ll want to throw up
Becoming the biggest version of you is the scariest thing you’ll do
You’ll have darkness and pain and some friends will leave you.
But I’m going to let you in on life’s ultimate hack
It’s that you get to choose gratitude even when it feels like the universe doesn’t have your back.
God wants to use you
He guides those who are willing
And it’s not up to you to decide if your dream is worth killing
You’ve got a soul contract to live into your life’s call
Don’t worry about failing, you will, it’s a part of it
But you’ve got sisters here to catch you when you fall
Choose love
Choose forgiveness
Choose courage
Choose your truth.
Every single time you show up
It gives more hope for our youth
Stay close to what makes you feel ALIVE
Don’t just survive
That’s not why you’re here
But you gotta continue to do the things that help you get clear.
PAY ATTENTION to soul hits, nudges and winks
AND whenever you get them, take action and don’t think
Sometimes when I’m quiet, when I’m running, or if Eminem’s rapping
I’ll lose myself in the music and feel God start the tapping
On three, everybody get up, we’re gonna start clapping
3, 2, 1…
Sister you're a star – you’re a strong girl
Playin’ in your gifts - gonna start to change the world today
You got glitter on yo' face
Your hair’s in place
Spreading your magic all over the place
Singin’
We will, we will rise up
We will, we will rise up
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My friend, founder of Organifi and now author, Drew Canole is back on the show and I couldn’t be more happy as I feel a bit like I need to redeem myself after my last interview with him – I can’t believe how nervous I was last time! Since that time, not only have we hung out multiple times, but we’ve participated in a week-long retreat in Costa Rica together as well. I never knew it was possible to laugh so much! Drew has definitely helped me see that fun is a requirement of up-leveling our lives!
Drew has a unique ability to help others tap into different parts of their lives and uncover who they truly are. And one of the primary ways Drew is doing that today is through his new book, You Be You, where he guides readers to “detox their lives, crush their limitations and own their awesome.” Why achieve your goals or present the world with a counterfeit version of yourself when it will never feel completely true to who you are?
Be prepared to have a lot of laughs and hear a lot of wisdom in our candid conversation. And if you’re looking for a way to unlock that next level of being YOU, definitely pick up his book!
Question Highlights:
Quotes
"When you choose to do something in the moment, you have to be present.”
“When you’re present is the only time you can manifest or materialize your goals, desires and dreams.”
“The world doesn’t need a counterfeit you. The planet needs a re-remembering of who you truly are.”
“When you start to give more love to yourself, you open up a world of possibilities.”
Drew Canole is an author, transformation coach, and founder of Organifi. Drew has helped thousands of women and men revitalize their health, ignite their vision, and shift the course of their life forever. After reaching a dead end in his own health, Drew discovered the chasm of difference between going through the motions and living with radical intention. He now helps people tap into the "Big You" to create the change they never thought possible.
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Fair warning to you before you start listening to today’s episode – I am en fuego! Having just attended Lewis Howes’ Summit of Greatness and being surrounded by 1,500+ big thinkers, there’s no way I couldn’t be. It’s events like these that force me to take chances and go for the things that scare the living crap out of me!
“Fear is your invite for growth.”
The purpose of life is growth and progress. We are all meant to find what makes us fulfilled and happy, but sometimes that’s the thing we fear the most.
As an exercise, I want you to write down the 10 things you’re most afraid of – they can be big or small. These are your next steps. From here, circle the least scary step – or perhaps the scariest step. Whichever you choose, act on it, no matter how uncomfortable or scared you are. Rejection or failure is inevitable, but the biggest gifts are on the other side.
No, I’m not super human, but I will say after receiving 21 rejections on my books, I am grateful for them because they helped me land the publishing company that liked it! Plus, consistently doing the things that I have fear around helps me grow and throughout that process I’m also showing thousands of others that they too can do it.
Most recently one of my fears is about sharing a spoken word poem I wrote for my friend, Danette May’s event this weekend. I love doing this, but I’m terrified of what others think! (Be sure to tune in because I’m sharing a small portion of it with you.) But here’s the thing, I want to grow and I don’t want to leave this world living up to anything less than my highest potential. I do mess up while reading it, but I’ve left it in because I want you to see that sometimes we have to mess up and let others see it in order to free them as well. I hope it gives you some of that freedom, too.
So today, stop playing small. Do something messy, unplanned or share something that doesn’t feel good. And be sure to share it with me over on IG…I love hearing from you!
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Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour!
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A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder
Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com
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I am so thrilled today to have Tom Bilyeu on the show! I recently had the amazing opportunity and experience of being interviewed on his podcast, Impact Theory and I couldn’t wait to continue the conversation and learn even more about the similarities in our lives and business – and this time, pick his brain.
Similar to my journey, Tom grew up in a family who struggled with their weight, and broke the pattern by choosing to pave a healthier way for himself and as result change the trajectory of his life at the same time. That’s why today he’s so passionate about helping others who struggle with their weight. However, Tom is the first to acknowledge that it’s not always an easy path. In fact, when it comes to success in weight loss or a business or career, nothing is guaranteed – except the pain or struggle. And to get through any of that, you must take action and also accept that you may not be right about x-y-z right now. We have to be willing to make changes if we want to see change.
Tune in to learn just what Tom does that helps him do just that. He shares so many tangible takeaways for all of us to start looking at what we’re doing right now and more into our next level of life. Please let me know what thoughts or actions you put into place because of them!
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In This Episode We Talk about:
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“I’m going to believe the things that empower me.”
“The gap between where you are and what you want to accomplish is a gap of skillset. It is you not being good enough.”
“If you want to get to extraordinary, you’re going to have to realize that we’re rewarded and punished.”
“Drive is the willingness to act on a day-to-day basis in a way that moves you toward your goals. Ambition is having the goals.”
“To develop my drive, I had to suffer.”
“Things that are hard are gonna be the things that develop who you are.”
“What would we do and love every day even if we were failing?”
“The struggle is guaranteed – the success is not.”
“The skillset you already have has already taken you as far as its going to unless you do something that introduces you to a new idea that you turn into a usable skill.”
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Tom Bilyeu is the co-founder of 2014 Inc. 500 company Quest Nutrition — a unicorn startup valued at over $1 billion — and the co-founder and host of Impact Theory. Tom’s mission is to break people out of the Matrix by sharing transformative content and fostering one-to-one communication within the Impact Theory community. Tom believes that human potential is nearly limitless, but the dual pandemics of mental and physical malnutrition are hindering a realization of this potential. Through in-depth interviews with the world’s top achievers, including Gary Vaynerchuk, Maria Sharapova, and Mel Robbins, Tom explores mindset-shifting tactics, questions accepted belief systems, and uncovers distinctive strategies for success.
Tom regularly inspires audiences of entrepreneurs, change makers, and thought leaders at prestigious conferences and seminars around the world, including Success Live, Hustle Con, Thrive, Abundance 360, Mindvalley’s A-fest, and Freedom Fast Lane. Tom has been featured on numerous top-rated podcasts such the Tony Robbins Podcast, The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes, Bulletproof Radio with Dave Asprey, and the Dr. Drew Podcast, and has been featured in Forbes, Inc., Success, and The Huffington Post. He is currently on the Innovation Board of the XPRIZE Foundation.
Resources:
Instagram: @tombilyeu
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu
YouTube.com/tombilyeu
Impact Theory Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/impact-theory-with-tom-bilyeu/id1191775648?mt=2
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Today I’m talking about the vital topic of taking action and curing those moments where you’re just sitting in pain thinking. The last week (typically in the mornings is when I struggle the most), I’ve been overthinking – everything. Have you ever caught yourself in a downward spiral like this? And it’s during moments like these that I’m really trying to work on shortening the amount of time they last.
“Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice.”
Here’s my hack – even though I drag my feet sometimes. TAKE ACTION!
“Action cures anxiety.”
Here’s the thing, even something infinitesimally small and new leads to new results. Plus, when your mood is more neutral, and less in a place of suffering, you’re in a better place to welcome new ideas and opportunities. I’m not saying you need to take action all the time…far from it. After all, we need time to relax and connect with other people, but please do not choose suffering! Take the action that will make you feel better. (Trust me, I wouldn’t tell you anything that I wouldn’t tell myself!)
I want you to know that I see you taking uncertain actions despite those doubts in your head, and I’m cheering you on. Thank goodness for tribe because even though I’m scared too, I know I have a group of people that have my back regardless of what’s going on. And I’m here to tell you that no matter what you’re going through right now, I just want you to know that I think you’re magic. We are all magic and we’re not meant to suffer and play small! You need to keep pushing forward and sharing your uniqueness with the world!
Thank you so much for listening and supporting my podcast. If this message resonated with you, please share with a friend and be sure to shoot me a note on IG – I would love to hear how it resonated with you!
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In This Episode Lori talks about:
Resources:
Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour!
Join me on the OPRAH Cruise!! Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html
A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder
Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com
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You know how every now and then you get lucky and have a conversation with someone who just “gets” you, your journey and how your brain works? Well, today’s guest, Robyn Youkilis checked that box. Growing up in a family that used food as a source of love, comfort and connection, I could completely relate. Don’t get me wrong this is a great thing, however the breaking point for Robyn (and myself) is when we started gaining weight and that warm, fuzzy connection went away and instead turned into a difficult connection.
Once she made this realization, Robyn set out to create a new conversation around food and weight. She didn’t want to view things as “good” or “bad,” rather she wanted to slow things down and figure out what foods would best support her body.
After much trial and error (that still happens on a daily basis), she now teaches others that it’s OK if you don’t have it all figured out – it may even take decades. It’s all about finding a formula that works for your body and adheres to what your intuition is telling you and keeps you in alignment. She also touches on how motherhood impacted her relationship with food and how it led to an impactful shift in her life then and now.
I had such a great time connecting with Robyn during this conversation. If you’re someone who struggles with your relationship with food, this episode is a must listen (and her book, Thin from Within, a must read).
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Question Highlights:
In This Episode We Talk about:
Quotes
“You feel good when you're connected to other people.”
“My body is my home.”
“Let your own story and journey be what you want it to be and know that it’s OK.”
“Go with your gut.”
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Robyn Youkilis is an AADP Certified Health Coach, author, speaker, and leading expert in holistic digestive health. For nearly a decade, Robyn has helped clients shed both physical and emotional weight with her straightforward yet supportive coaching style, Your Healthiest You. She is the author of the best-selling books, Go with Your Gut and Thin From Within - The Go with Your Gut Way to Lose Weight, and has been featured by The Cooking Channel, The View, The Today Show, The Wall Street Journal, Health, Mind Body Green, Well Good, The Chalkboard Mag and more.
Robyn currently lives in New York City and Los Angeles with her husband and their daughter. She has been a member of the American Association of Drugless Practitioners (AADP) for nearly a decade and enjoys traveling, music festivals and eating dessert at fancy restaurants (one bite at a time, that is!).
Resources:
Instagram: @robynyoukilis
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robyn.youkilis
Book: Thin from Within
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